What stories do you make up to help you get through crazy days, weeks or even years? I know that I’ve gotten very effective at telling myself some pretty good stories to put things off or avoid things that I may be dreading.
The biggest story that I make up is “I don’t have enough time.” Now there are many versions to this story depending upon the situation. Here’s the version of my longest running story which I finally had to come to grips with, “I don’t have enough time to work out.” Like many of you, I work all day and then when I get home my children need my time. So I had rationalized in my mind that I could only work out on the weekends since I was already spending all day Saturday and Sunday with them.
I have been telling myself this story for 14 years.
A few weeks ago I was challenged to examine what the root of my story was really all about. It came down to two things. The first was my decision to avoid feeling guilt and the second which I had never admitted to myself, or to anyone for that matter, was that I sometimes feel bad that I am not a stay at home mom. The guilt piece was easy to understand. The tougher reality was realizing that Rob and I never even discussed the possibility of one of us staying home.
The story I created is not good for my physical, mental or emotional health.
So I am in the process of writing a new story, a different story. I am a loving and caring mother and wife who is waging war against feeling guilt, embracing my choices and forgiving myself when I do not always make the right decision. I want to lead a healthy and successful life and that includes making sure that I dedicate time every day to some type of physical exercise.
What stories do you make up about yourself, your family, your career and your finances? Do you have someone to talk to and work through what your new story can be?