Empty nest

My husband and I have joined the ranks of the empty nesters.  With less noise, less chaos, and fewer planned activities, we are now left on our own to plan our time.My husband and I have joined the ranks of the empty nesters. We’ve been hearing from friends about how great it would be and all the positives of having your kids leave home. What we didn’t hear as much about was how different it would be. Less laundry, dishes, groceries. But also less noise, less chaos, and less planned activities.

We have spent the past 24 years with at least one child at home. That also means that our time and activities were almost always connected to our kids. Play dates, church groups, sports, concerts, and practices have consumed our calendars. Our circle of adult friends were also connected to those kid activities. This was not a bad thing, in fact I loved it. Going to sports practices and games, sitting on the sidelines with neighbors and friends-became a way of life. We have great memories and friendships because of that.

Now – without the kid’s schedule- driving our schedule, we are left on our own to plan our time. This can be wonderful and freeing- an impromptu road trip or a late movie. Yet, you realize that the rhythm and patterns you’ve followed for so many years are no longer. Time to start anew, or make the extra effort to connect with friends that you no longer just run into at the latest sport or activity.

And also I tell myself it’s ok to actually miss the kids. I am planning to spend more time on hobbies I enjoy- and mark my calendar for the next holiday when the kids return for a visit- along with their dirty clothes!

Are you an empty nester? What are some activities you started after your kids left home?

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7 Responses to Empty nest

  1. Veronica says:

    We allowed ourselves more flexibility around meals and meal times. We started eating later and taking the time to work out, go for a walk or simply sit and read before dinner. We also relaxed our “standards” about eating out. Two adults can eat out at simple diners and restaurants for a reasonable cost.

    • I like how you’ve embraced the change. Why not take advantage of the newfound flexibility ? I am going to try your suggestion on eating dinner later and finding time for other positive activities.

  2. Natalie Caine says:

    I launched Empty Nest Support Services and left my career as a Speech and Language Therapist, eight years ago. I garden more, learned to write better , took up photography and see people I didn’t make time to see before. My new career has developed parts of me that were dormant and I am so so so happy helping empty nesters find what’s next for them and grow adult healthy relationships with their kids. Who knew I would travel this path. If you had asked me ten years ago, I would have said NO WAY. I love change. Age has nothing to do with having fun. I find we just forget . Take care…

  3. Christi Black, Waco, TX says:

    I am an empty nester at age 41. I have two daughters that attend college now. I did sit dormant for about two months, when then I decided to focus on my health and wellness! I have joined a wonderful support group. I also started a wonderful Plan B. A side business in the travel industry. This business has allowed me to meet other people and travel! I speak at various functions, which allows me to sponsor and consult with others who are looking for the same connections. It has been a wonderful change. I love meeting new people and showing others how to make a living, living.

  4. Eli says:

    hi Laurie,

    Me and my wife were empty nesters as well and althogh my wife is a licensed marriage therapist we took it pretty hard. We decided to work hard and rekindle our relationship and reconnect by going on several adventures ranging from Tuscany, Jerusalem and even going on a Safari.

    While seeing the world we discovered we could live with less and invest more in our relationship. That’s when we had the great idea to offer this kind of experience to other couples as well

    So we created our website ViaSeminars.com
    Basically couples who struggle to rekindle their passion can go on a vacation, relax and at the same time confront head-on the core issues that have taken them in different directions.

    kind regards,
    Eli

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