I found an interesting statistic from a study out of Virginia Tech that noted that 80% of Americans don’t have goals. Wow – I have goals but I do not have a bucket list, intentionally. What is the difference? I am a maniacal list-writer and unashamed Franklin Covey gal, and I write a list of goals at the start of each year, reviewing those regularly. So, why no bucket list?
I rush through my every day with more than 12 meetings on a typical work day and weekends filled with activity. So, every day I am certain that I miss out on a nuance as I speed by – a moment I should have captured, that person I should have called, an idea I did not give time to bloom. Knowing this, I actively try to not spend time considering what I am or may miss out on – life is not about what I need to do before I die, but what I need to do to live.
I recall one business dinner where someone started that question around the table of “what do you need to do before you die…” and the answers ranged from learning a new language to jumping out of an airplane. I have so completely confused all non-English languages I have learned that no RosettaStone, unless it is magical, can help me now. And, I have flown so much that the concept of stepping out of a perfectly functioning plane is not for me.
If you are wondering how I answered the question at the table, I said, “I have one relationship I need to mend, other than that I am good to go.” It may sound simple, but each day I try to focus on the top things that will most make a difference to my family, with my friends and in my work/community. Often it involves working very long hours, other times it is enjoying that perfect family vacation, or driving new changes in my workplace or community one day and one step at a time.